Can you ever really be friends with an ex?

When you're first trying to get over someone, you can't immediately plan to be friends. You need to have distance to see him for who he really is — that's why we recommend the 60-day "he-tox." Exes who end up as friends have usually had significant time pass — years, not months or weeks. But hopefully, you'll be in a rockin' new relationship and won't want to bother with dragging anything old into it.

What if you're close to your ex's family and still want a relationship with them even though it's over with him?

You also loved those pair of jeans — but they're his jeans. That's his family. It's not for you to keep. Let them go.

能和以前的情人成为真正的朋友吗？

你正处于跟某人分手的恢复期时，不会马上打算跟他成为朋友的。你需要跟他保持距离，看看他到底是个什么样的人。这就是为什么我们建议60天不要接触的原因。要和以前的情人成为朋友需要经过相当长的时间，这可能需要几年的时间，而不是几个月或者几周。但是我希望还是开始一段新的感情，而不要和过去拉拉扯扯的好。

如果你和前情人的家人关系很亲密，即使已经和他分手了也还想和他的家人保持联系，这样行吗？

你也喜欢那些牛仔裤，但那是他的牛仔裤。同样，这是他的家人，没必要继续保持联系。